I don’t know if you’ve heard, but I was recently INJURED in a helicopter incident.
During takeoff, the helicopter blade hit my middle finger and SPLIT my fingernail right down the middle, from top to bottom. Ouch!!!
My nail was half detached, so when I touched anything it would pull on the tender FLESH underneath that used to be protected.
(Are you feeling SORRY for me yet?)
Toy Story
Oh…did I mention that the helicopter that injured me was purchased at the DOLLAR store for my daughter?
Yep. I was wounded by a plastic TOY!
I don’t think the “I hurt myself with a toy angle” wasn’t NEARLY interesting enough.
So when I begin to tell this story, I EMBELLISH or just omit critical FACTS.
Have you ever exaggerated or inflated YOUR problems in the interest of JUSTIFYING your actions or moods?
It’s Only Natural
Our human nature is to make our OWN circumstances appear more IMPORTANT than they really are, in order to frame other people’s opinions the way we WANT them to think about us. Many times, the way we are actually thinking about us.
We are JUSTIFYING our actions by MAGNIFYING our issues about:
•Why we’re feeling so STRESSED out.
•Excusing why we’re ACTING the way we are.
•Or occasionally, just to get a little ATTENTION.
The catch to the totally natural thought process is this, If we insist on blowing up the SMALL stuff in our lives (for whatever reason) it will become exactly as BIG a problem as we make it.
The Thing About Thinking
If we THINK our molehill problem is a mountain, it will be in our sight.
If we THINK we’re good enough to get the job done, then we WILL be.
If we THINK everyone is out to GET us, every action will seem that way to us.
The Bible knows that the way we think will determine how we live. It says, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV)
The Right Approach
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, be careful about how you think YOUR story.
•How you FRAME your thinking will establish how you feel.
•How you FEEL it will be reflected in how you tell your story.
•How you TELL people your life is going will govern how you are.
•HOW we approach a situation will ultimately determine how it will AFFECT us.
“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”
The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
You have much more CONTROL over how your day turns out than you might think.
God has told us how much He LOVES us and how He created us for GOOD.
We need to THINK about it, BELIEVE it , TALK about our life God’s way and then LIVE it!
Have you recently made a “mountain out of a mole hill” and then let it frame your thinking?
If my goofy encounter with a dollar store toy can evolve into a “helicopter accident”, then I bet you have a story to share, too!
Thank you for sharing and your time. Love your blogs.
Kim,
You are the sweetest, thank you for those kind words! Glad you shared! 🙂
Thank you so much Pastor Nicole! This is so right on!!
I am reminded of the fact that most of the times my thoughts will become my actions & my actions will become my destiny. And I don’t want to end up in a place I’m not destined & designed to be dwelling. #thoughtsmatter
Emmeline,
LOVE the hash tag! #thoughtsmatter! You are right, our thoughts can provoke our actions and essentially mold our character!
Thanks for reading! 🙂
Emmeline,
Thank you for your encouragement!
Great blog, Pastor Nicole…bigger isn’t always better. Sometimes it’s just bloated. That’s why God warns us to watch the words we speak.
Sherry,
That’s right, and us women try to avoid that whole “bloated” thing!
Awesome,
God speaks in varied ways to each individual. He knows how we will respond and will use whatever methods are necessary to get through to us. The three most common ways God communicates are through prayer, the Bible, and leadings of the Holy Spirit. Also, God can use a godly mentor to provide wise counsel (Proverbs 12:15). If God wants to speak to us, nothing can stop Him. He may use one, all, or a combination of methods to make Himself known, but one thing remains the same: our duty is to listen and obey!!!!!
Patrick,
Good words sir! Thanks for reading, and you are right! Proverbs is a book I try to read everyday!
Love this!! I have close friends and family that continually do this – makes me immediately want to “tune” them out 🙁
Tracey,
Thanks for sharing! It always seems to be easiest to tune out those closest to us!
I needed to hear this, as about three weeks ago, a job situation popped up, when my boss talked to me about a situation at work. I had a knot in my stomach then. Since then the Lord has been helping teach me through this through the Word, my pastor’s messages on Sunday and through your blog here. I am praying more and complaining less now. Also, I am praying for my coworkers and the patrons that we help each day.