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Nicole Crank is a USA Today Best-Selling Author, dynamic international conference speaker, powerful life coach, pastor, and well-known television host of “The Nicole Crank Show,” that is broadcast around the world! Nicole and husband, David, are the Lead Pastors of FaithChurch.com, with eight campuses in Missouri, Illinois, Florida, and thousands more Online.

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April 16, 2014

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Nicole Crank is a USA Today Best-Selling Author, dynamic international conference speaker, powerful life coach, pastor, and well-known television host of “The Nicole Crank Show,” that is broadcast around the world! Nicole and husband, David, are the Lead Pastors of FaithChurch.com, with eight campuses in Missouri, Illinois, Florida, and thousands more Online.

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Anger

Whenever someone makes me mad, I feel with such clarity that I know EXACTLY what to do and say in that moment.

And I’m usually 100% WRONG!

I remember getting ready one morning, throwing on some pants and asking David, “Do these look GOOD on me?”

That’s a “death trap” question for ANY husband. But he ventured to answer it honestly.

“You aren’t going to like the way those make your BUTT look.”

Oh No He Didn’t!
In my mind, I knew exactly what to ZING back. I didn’t know it, but I had 12 comments in my back pocket ready for such a time as this.

And then I realized that I had the power to blow this situation up. (That’s what I WANTED to do because my feelings were hurt…even though he was right.) OR, I had the power to diffuse it.

So I asked God to help me CONTROL myself, because it was going to take Him to get my emotions back in line. (Nothing human could do it at that moment in time.)

As I asked God for His help in making the right decision on my next words, I felt PEACE and understanding come.

It’s All You
What I felt in my heart was, “Whenever you make decisions in the emotion of the moment, your decision is you, and NOT ME.”

How right is THAT???

I always want to grab my phone and shoot out a text AS SOON as I get mad.

Many times I’ve watched that text go out while I was yelling, “Noooo, don’t send!” I ALREADY knew better.

When we let the emotion of the moment PASS, we have the OPPORTUNITY to ask God for His guidance and to be directed by His peace. That’s ALWAYS the right way!

Prayer For Today
“Father, please give us the self control to not act in our own strength, but to rely on You and Your peace to guide us. In Jesus name, Amen”

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  1. Meghan says:

    Oh my goodness – this is an ongoing challenge. Not complaining about it – I just know that I will win.

  2. Angie Jones says:

    Sometimes I have to wait and count to longer than to 10…it is the best counting ever for it allows me to think and respond in the way that I know God would want me to rather than my flesh!

  3. Kristina Solomon says:

    AMEN!!!

  4. Carol Kassing says:

    That is so true Pastor Nicole. When I have to have a difficult conversation I have learned to stop and ask God to guide my words
    and just say what He wants me to say and to give me the right words.
    It is a different story when there is a comment made and you have to stay calm. I am still working on that with someone who pushes buttons
    but I am getting much better.

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