I admit, I’m guilty.
Right now, in front of everyone… I lay it on the line.
I. AM. GUILTY.
Guilty of what you may be wondering.
Well, there is a list.
When I am at the office late (almost everyday), I feel guilty I am not with my kids or husband.
When I take time with my family, I feel guilty that I am not working (even if it is my day off). Ironic, huh?
With the kids, I feel guilty about husband time. And with the hubby, I feel guilty about kid time.
We haven’t even talked about the dog, the neighbors, the P.T.A., the room mothers, and my friends.
Who has time for friends? Wow, I feel really bad about how I treat them too.
Heaven forbid I spend an hour alone because then I feel guilty about everyone!
When I workout, I feel guilty because I am not with the family or working. When I don’t have time to workout (because I’m with my family or working), I feel guilty that I am not taking care of my body.
When I eat fried foods or sweets, I feel like I am not taking care of myself. When I turndown sweets or fried foods, I feel like others think I am being self-righteous.
How do we win?
Guilt is a tool of the enemy.
Guilt attempts to rob us of our happiness (no matter where we are or what we are doing).
The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows). –John 10:10 (AMP)
God wants us to experience so much joy that it overflows onto other people. When they see how much fun we are having, they’ll want to know what we have that they don’t… Jesus.
That’s why the first thing the enemy comes to steal is our joy – though little pangs of guilt.
These little pangs aren’t “major” enough to get our attention. If they were, then we would correct the problem.
But guilt actually feels right… somehow justified.
That’s why we need to remember feelings are crazy, fickle creatures. They are wrong just as often as they are right.
Let’s talk about how to kill guilt.
Kill guilt! Kill guilt! I had to work myself up to this because I am really guilty of it.
If Jesus said that the reason He came was so that I could enjoy life (so much that I overflow with it), then this is the key… I am just going to enjoy it!
- Enjoy my time alone.
- Enjoy my kids when I am with them.
- Enjoy my husband when we have our moments.
- Enjoy work while I am there.
- Enjoy the calories when I indulge and (be proud of myself when I have the courage to turn them down).
Right now I decide to go ahead and encourage others… to show them how to stomp out guilt… to share with them how to enjoy the very place they are right now!
Suck it in.
If you’re at the office on your break, be thrilled you are employed.
If you’re on your phone reading this, let’s just do a dance that you have a smart phone (no matter where you are on it).
If you are unemployed right now, be excited about a break from the rat race.
If you are covered in kid puke right now, be happy it is just a passing flu and nothing serious.
If it is something serious, enjoy that we have this time together.
God gave me life, and by George, I am not going to let the enemy guilt me into not enjoying it!
It’s a Girl Thing this Month
I will be talking about how it is okay to enjoy life and pamper ourselves a little bit at the It’s a Girl Thing women’s meeting on April 20th at our Sunset Hills Campus at 7:30pm.
We will have some great salons in house as well as some fabulous D.I.Y. spa treatments you can do at home.
Come be with us! The event is free and childcare is provided for ages 0-4. Come and don’t fell guilty about it!
What about you?
Are you committed to stomping out guilt today? Have you fought similar battles? Tell us about it. Encourage us!
Wow! I could have written this, at least the guilt part! I try to remind myself that everyday is a gift from God and if I don’t find time to enjoy it then I am telling Him that I don’t appreciate it. When I view it that way I don’t need to feel guilty about the moments I steal to enjoy the people around me and the things God has blessed me with!
Teresa – The enemy uses similar tools on us all. Once we figure it out, we need to share it and encourage each other. YOU HAVE THIS!
This too is something that I am guilty of also. Thank you for the suggestions!
Big 🙂 from this blog. Thanks! The fabulous thing I find is when keep guilt where it’s suppose to be and free from it, the better we are at life, the more grace we live in!
Pastor Nicole, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for blogging about guilt. I truly get sick of hearing myself talk about how guilty I am about everything. It can become such a bad habit. You are so right when you talk about the devil having his hand in this. It really does steal my joy. I begin to feel like I can’t accomplish anything, because I’m guilty about everything. It overwhelms the mind, and causes it to shut down. Just what the devil loves to see, so we can not be helpful to anyone. Woman especially need to talk about this more openly, so we can practice how not to do this so much in our lives, and that we are not alone in feeling this way, and that the only way to not be so hard on ourselves, is to give it to God. Thank you Pastor Nicole for bringing this up today, it really has opened my eyes to this terrible problem. God Bless You
Lori – It seems that you have a grip on it – don’t be like me and lose that grip. I do. More often than I like. You get time for you! Enjoy!
Wow! Much needed insight! Thank you for sharing!
You’re the best!
Guilty….but working on it!!! Great blog today!!