I was in my office the other day talking with a trio of bright, single people.
They were thin and good-looking.
They had great personalities and an even better social life.
But then, the conversation drifted…
One person mentioned how lonely the single life could be, then the others chimed in that they felt the same way.
I was pretty shocked to think that these high caliber singles (with very together lives) felt this way!
I mean, from the outside, it looked as if the world was their oyster–foot loose and fancy free!
They seemed ready to pick up and go at a moment’s notice.
It never occurred to me that they were looking for a reason to pick up and go…
Being married for 17 years with two kids, I don’t really remember that feeling of loneliness.
I’m sure I experienced it at times. I recall it … vaguely–like in a dream.
But at this point in my fast-paced life–juggling my schedule, my husband’s schedule, and the schedules of two social kids in more activities than I can count on two hands; I dream of just a few moments to myself… to do what I want to do… and when I want to do it–in peace and quiet!
Talk about a dream… like the title of that children’s book, Just Five Minutes of Peace!
It’s funny how we desire what we don’t have! No matter what it is.
Lonely single people and married people dreaming of alone time…
You would figure one of these two scenarios would make us happy, but that’s just it!
Relationships will never make us happy.
Finding a mate will not make us happy.
If we have a spouse, it is not up to them to make us happy.
Rather, it is up to us to find our happiness in Christ.
Now you might be thinking… I’d love to do that, but how?
The Perfect Relationship
Paul said in the Bible:
Actually, I don’t have a sense of needing anything personally. I’ve learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I’m just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I’ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am.
–Phillipians 4:11-13 (MSG (emphasis mine))
The secret to every relationship is our relationship with the Greater One. If we want any other relationship to mesh (including our relationship with ourselves), we have to develop a relationship with God.
Without trust in Him, we will doubt the purpose of our existence.
Without knowing who He is, we can not be assured that His plans for us are to give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
Without a relationship with Him, we do not know that we can do all things through Him.
Without talking to Him and hearing His voice, we don’t have access to the encouragement that assures us that the victory is ours and the battle is the Lord’s. (2 Chronicles 20:15)
When I look back on my life, I wonder how I ever made it through some of the times when I strayed from Him. Its no wonder those times in my life weren’t pretty. I had left the relationship.
That may be where you are today–a little lost in life.
You might be wondering if the decisions you made were the right ones. Or perhaps, you’re wondering if you are in the right place, with the right person, and at the right time.
I have good news for you!
God never denies us relationship with Him.
You can turn back to God in repentance and He will accept you instantly… allowing the relationship restoration to begin. He never leaves you. He is faithful.
Let’s take a moment to commit our lives to Him right now by praying this prayer:
God, every day I need you. Sometimes I fall away, get distracted or purposefully do my own thing instead of doing what I know You want me to do. I’m sorry!
Right now I recommit my life to You and realign my purpose with the destiny for which You have created me.
I know You love me, and God, I love you. I will serve You! Speak to my heart the way that I should go and Lord I will listen and obey. Amen.
Now, that relationship is right. It is meshed. It is folded back together in such a way that He can’t see the separation any longer.
And we have taken the first step toward… happy.