My son has been planning his engagement for months. From the second that I saw his nervousness and wanting the moment to be PERFECT, to her ecstatic JOY and excitement of him asking her to be his wife; I knew I wanted to share it with the world.
(And I’m not even the one getting married!)
It made me stop and think, about how couples are SO excited when their future is just beginning. A relationship that started out on one knee with a “WILL YOU?”, to a beautiful and well thought out ceremony of “I DO’s”; more than 50% of the time leaves the pair wondering “WHAT DID WE DO?”
Love Is A Verb
One thing I’ve figured out about that 4 letter word, L-O-V-E, (Yep, sometimes it rolls off of my tongue like a curse word, even in our GREAT marriage!) is that it’s NOT a feeling, not even a little bit.
I mean, we do GET a feeling as a by-product. But REAL LOVE has nothing to do with a feeling.
LOVE…the kind that makes marriages work, is actually a VERB. It’s an ACTION word, DOING something ALL the time!
Love is an ATTITUDE. When we’re doing “that thing” that we don’t want to do (in the name of love) NO ONE should know that we really didn’t WANT to do it.
I’ve lived through GOOD and BAD relationships. First, I was divorced and lived through the pain of having my heart RIPPED in half.
But now, I’m getting to live my “happily-ever-after” FAIRY TALE, most of the time, for the last 16 years of marriage.
I’ve learned that love is putting someone else FIRST. What? No ME time? That’s not what I’m saying.
I AM saying, that if two people are committed to putting EACH OTHER first, then selfishness will not be an issue and love will flourish.
The Bible pretty much NAILS IT with the scripture they read at most weddings. (I don’t think the blushing brides and nervous grooms are able to truly ponder it, in the moment.)
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (ESV)
Love Never Fails!
With Valentine’s Day approaching, the world is thinking about LOVE. Actually, we don’t need a holiday to remind us.
People are ALWAYS looking for love!
Love is work…HARD work! But it’s the most amazingly rewarding work that we’ll ever do. It’s the kind of work that FUELS us and gives us strength beyond imagination!
I’m excited to be talking with you about LOVE and RELATIONSHIPS in my blog, over the next few days.
Prayer for Today
“Dear God, we all want to love and to be loved. Help us to sow love into others that we desire, and to truly feel the love that others are sowing into us.” Amen.
Tell us something you’ve learned about love; something that has worked for you. What have you tried to do differently in order to make a relationship work?