The other day, David was MEETING with a few of our leaders, when I bopped into his office on my way out to another appointment.
He was “drilling down” and training them on some really GREAT things. But as I said goodbye and walked out, I felt like I had FAILED him, somehow.
I should REALLY be doing that, so he doesn’t have to! I had thoughts like, “Wow, he’s SO right! I didn’t even catch that! I have to tune up!”
He saw some things that I DIDN’T…and made them better. Now, I started COMPETING with him in my mind.
My Jerry Maguire Moment
As I started my car, I had to STOP a whole “freight train of thoughts” that began barreling through my mind at an alarming speed.
I even had to say out loud, “I don’t compete with him, I COMPLETE him!”
The enemy tries to DERAIL our relationships from going to the next level by getting our thoughts offline.
A Little Bit Jealous
It’s an AGE-OLD problem in relationships of all kinds; marriages, friendships, dating or the workplace.
• One person is NATURALLY gifted at managing money, so the other tries to PROVE their worth by attempting to take over the finances.
• One person APPEARS to be getting more love and attention from a child or a pet, and suddenly they’re BOTH competing for that very same affection.
• One person feels like they’re stuck doing MORE work than the other, so they start making mental lists for COMPARISON.
Opposites Attract
Why? Because they COMPLETE each other so perfectly!
Bosses like to hire people with different talents because their DIVERSE skills COMPLEMENT each other.
Don’t worry. There’s still plenty of room for us to SHINE in every relationship.
In fact, we’ll find more contentment in COMPLETING a WHOLE relationship instead of competing for just a SMALL portion of one!
Prayer For Today
“God, help me be confident in the space where you created me, with the gifts that you gave me and the destiny that you want for me. Help me to complete the people that you put around me so that I can be a blessing to them.” Amen.
God use me to complete those you have brought into my life and help me to not feel in competition so that I can fulfill what you have for me.
Very good! In my mind I feel like I need to compete with my spouse because the label, “men lead” but I have to remember there are roles where the woman has to lead. Hands down she is the most organized, me, an organized mess. Anyway, as you stated quite well, I am with her to complete, not compete with her. We’re only in our 2nd year of marriage, so we are learning together at church. My spiritual strength is more than hers, but by my faith & actions I’m hoping she grows more in hers. Thank you both for being a true, fun, spiritual example of marriage. We all have short comings, but in God we can learn & grow from it.
Michael – it sounds like you are on the right path! I pray many more years of growing and happiness together for the both of you!