Have you ever had a case of the flu where you felt SO BAD for SO LONG, that when you finally got better you thought,“Wow? I forgot how GOOD it feels to feel GOOD!”
I think the same thing happens with EMOTIONAL wounds.
In BETWEEN hurts, betrayals or flat-out breathtaking sucker punches, we tend to FORGET just how bad an emotional “hurt” actually HURTS!
Suddenly, something UNEXPECTED comes “out of the blue” and hurts us in a way that we forgot was even possible.
We TRY to erase it from our thought life; and might be able to pull it off for a little while.
But, no matter who’s right or who’s wrong…that horrible ACHE is still there!
Then the MENTAL barrage and INNER dialogue begins.
• WHY would they do that to me?
• Am I not GOOD enough?
• Am I not SMART enough? Or WORTH it?
• Am I REALLY what they say I am?
• I mean…I’m TRYING my best!
Does that person who just plunged a DAGGER into my heart even CARE?
This Taught Me A Lot!
Recently, when a BIG HURT came out of nowhere and took the wind out of my sails, my FAMILY really helped me get over it.
They allowed me to tell my story, as I tried to PURGE the hurt from my soul and GRASP how and why it all happened.
They didn’t cut me off or speed me up. They were just PATIENT with me.
I thought they were angels, and really they were handling the situation just how the Bible tells us to. “…Encourage those who are timid. Take tender care of those who are weak. Be patient with everyone.” 1 Thessalonians 5:14 (NLT)
Then, they spoke words of LIFE into me. They told me of my VALUE. They reminded me of all the things that they LOVED about me.
I could feel the ache subsiding and confidence growing as they followed God’s way. “But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.” Hebrews 3:13 (NIV)
Do it Again!
Later that day and the next, right about the time the hurt would come up in my mind again, SUDDENLY I started receiving random texts of LOVE and ENCOURAGEMENT.
“Speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this, no one left out, no one left behind. I know you’re already doing this; just keep on doing it.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (MSG)
What I Learned
When we have friends that are hurting, we sometimes wonder, “WHY can’t they talk about something…ANYTHING else?”
Why can’t they just MOVE ON? I figured out why – because that’s all THEY are thinking about at the time. The person who is hurt wants to move on too, they could just use a little help from their friends (I just started singing Joe Cocker ‘I Get By With A Little Help From My Friends’, you should YouTube it)
I‘ve learned that sowing those SEEDS of patience and encouragement in someone who needs love and encouragement will yield a harvest that we’ll be thankful for later.
Prayer for Today
“Lord, help us to love others as we want to be loved. Help us to recognize hurting people and have compassion on them. And Lord, we pray that You heal the hearts of those who are hurting around us.” Amen